tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7938077350176292783.post2186913687092981262..comments2023-06-21T09:27:03.204-05:00Comments on From Fat Ass to Badass!: Letting my guard downThe Shrinking Fat Girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17553439719984545916noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7938077350176292783.post-80693162092710359042008-05-15T16:09:00.000-05:002008-05-15T16:09:00.000-05:00You are a precious gift and belong to the lord. I'...You are a precious gift and belong to the lord.<BR/> I'm sorry your heart feels so much hurt, but I do understand. I was close to 300bls in high school (yes high school) I know the stares and feeling of worthlessness. It caused me to get involved with things and people that brought me a lot heart ache. You are very right about church being one of the worst for judgement (I have experienced that one also) <BR/>You are doing so great and are so beautiful. Don't ever let anyone or anythig drag you down. The healing will come with time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7938077350176292783.post-44643660177105713462008-05-12T21:17:00.000-05:002008-05-12T21:17:00.000-05:00I wish that I could say that you're wrong about "t...I wish that I could say that you're wrong about "the stares".... My starting weight was 294.8-- and I'm not at 216. (I'm 5'11") I'm still fat, but I'm not morbidly obese as I was-- I've gone from size 28 to size 18 Misses (yes, MISSES!!) But you're right-- people treat me differently. People look me in the eye. People smile at me. People have more confidence in my ability to perform work (mental work- not physical)-- but I'm the same person. <BR/><BR/>It's really sad. It makes me angry and upset- because nothing has changed except my clothing size-- but it is what it is... I try to educate others around me when they make comments or judgements about fat people-- but the discrimination is there and it's real....Lorie and Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12686951656727165969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7938077350176292783.post-20004176064905010292008-05-05T18:56:00.000-05:002008-05-05T18:56:00.000-05:00These comments are right on target in my opinion. ...These comments are right on target in my opinion. I'm heavy now, but I've been thin before, and my perception of my looks and the way other people saw me has always been the same. I have always - even at or below goal weight - felt heavy and that others saw me that same way.<BR/>As I've gotten older I've become more comfortable in my attractiveness, my sexiness, and my sexuality, and I've learned to try to perceive myself as a vibrant beautiful woman who just happens to be carrying 100 too many pounds around.<BR/>It's not easy though, I won't ever tell you it is.<BR/>It's learning to accept compliments - just say Thank you. Same with how you see yourself - just see and know that you are gorgeous. Others will follow your lead.<BR/>Would it have been easier to be a Rubenesque woman? In regard to my body type - absolutely!<BR/>But I live here and now, as do you. Let's focus on that.<BR/>hugggggggggTapestryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10168751514565148748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7938077350176292783.post-55829792960112267732008-05-04T17:40:00.000-05:002008-05-04T17:40:00.000-05:00I have never been obese but have struggled with bo...I have never been obese but have struggled with body image issues. I have to tell you that no matter what weight I am the same issues are always there. The same insecurities, the same doubts. I always think it will go away w/ the next 10 lbs but it doesn't. I think you will have to do alot of soul searching and self esteem exercises as much as the physical exercise to get over that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7938077350176292783.post-91001570005765347822008-05-04T00:33:00.000-05:002008-05-04T00:33:00.000-05:00I feel the same way... I tell myself as I drive by...I feel the same way... I tell myself as I drive by some random person waiting at a bus stop that not everyone is looking at them and watching their every move... So why, if it is me, do I feel that every passerby is noticing and judging me? It's irrational and yet, so hard to shake.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com