So this morning, with the unveiling of the brand new Momentum plan, there were LOTS and LOTS of new faces in our meeting. One of them sat directly in front of me. I was sitting next to my friend Laurie. Cute, skinny Laurie (who may be cute and skinny, but is neither shallow nor stupid!)
So this new lady turns and starts asking Laurie questions about her weight loss success. Like starting with how she managed to eat all her vegetables. Stuff like that. Okay, I am NOT AT ALL discounting Laurie being a wealth of information in this department. AT ALL. But here's the thing. This woman literally acted like I was not even in the room. Or on the same planet. Like I was invisible. Because I'm SO HARD TO MISS. (Read: I'm NOT a small girl!)
You can argue this point with me all you want. You can tell me my interpretation is just the old fat girl "everybody's judging me because of my weight" identity rearing it's ugly head yet again. You can try, but I don't believe it for a second.
I believe...no, I'll go so far as to say I KNOW the reason this woman had no interested in even acknowledging my existence during this conversation was, (drum roll please) in her eyes, I'm just a fat girl who wouldn't have any helpful tips to share. This woman doesn't know me, hasn't been in our meetings to see that perhaps I might know. She made her judgment based on appearances. Argue with me, go ahead. Laurie even kept looking at me to acknowledge I was there. The woman did not care.
And you know what? It made me mad. REALLY MAD. And you know what else? I've seen people come and go and come and go in my time at Weight Watchers. Chances are I'll see this one go, too. Yeah, I said it. How dare you sit in judgment of me, even if it's not even something you're doing consciously, when statistics say you wont even be there that long. How dare you.
I'm done with my rant now.
Holy crap - an ignorant b*tch strikes again.
ReplyDeleteI don't know how you resisted the urge to start asking Laurie questions too before saying "Oh yeah, I already know all that because I'VE LOST MORE POUNDS THAN LAURIE WEIGHS NOW."
Sorry, honey. But we know the truth. Puppies and toddlers, right?
D'oh!
ReplyDeleteShe put me on the spot too - maybe I don't want to tell you how I actually starve myself to lose weight and instead I have to lie and say I eat vegetables. ha ha
I don't mind answering questions, but the way she did it was so odd. Like someone asking simple, common sense type things. Like what did she think I'd say about vegetables......I get them in just like everyone else - probably less than Ginny though!
I am sorry that happened to you. I know how hard you have worked and that you come such a long way. Just remember karma is a bitch. Keep up the good work.
ReplyDeleteOMG you definitely have a right to be angry. I would be, too! This story made me think of a movie that I watched last night. It's called "Disfigured."
ReplyDeleteWhoa, that really sucks! I can completely understand why you'd feel so angry.
ReplyDeleteAt least you can talk to a much broader audience here on your blog than at that dumb WW meeting (not that all WW meetings are dumb, but quite obviously that one was!)