Okay, raise your hand if you are sick of hearing this? Or sick of hearing it said to other people.
Most people have a filter between their brain and their mouth and have it engaged most of the time. Except, it seems, when it comes to feeling the need to say things to overweight people. I suppose we should just be happy they think we have a pretty face?? Never mind that, no matter their intention, the end result of their diatribe is that we are intensely humiliated. Why is it acceptable, in people's minds, to say these things and assume we were just waiting to here from a total stranger their opinion on what we should do with ourselves to go out and drop the weight? Are people REALLY that dumb?
No, this was not said to me. (I must have an ugly face so it doesnt matter! JOKE!) I read about it happening to somebody on a message board. SOmebody who was already having a bad day. Because of the scale. The lying scale. And some yahoo decides to flap her gums at the girl. Okay, and what's even worse, this encounter took place AT THE GYM. Um, so you see a heavy person at the gym and decide YOU need to tell THEM how they need to work on their body. Gee, Einstein, what did you think she was there for? A hot fudge sundae?
Would these people dare walk up to somebody with a physical disability and suggest how they might fix themselves? Would they dare walk up to a paranoid schizophrenic and suggest they just get over it? I don't think so. But people seem to think it's okay to just let these things fly out of their mouths to overweight people.
So, if anybody happens to read this who might just happen to be one of those people who don't engage the filter, here's a newsflash for you: IT DOESN'T HELP US WHEN YOU SAY CRAP LIKE THAT. If I dont come to you and specifically ask for your support in my weight loss journey, don't feel obligated to give it to me. There's probably a reason you weren't asked in the first place.